How to Date When You Have an STD?

How to Date When You Have an STD?

Dating when you have an STD is so tough and stressful as things are getting really complicated. After diagnosis, patients may be worried about being judged. They may be terrified about how they are going to face the world. They may also be scared they could spread the disease to their partners. Fortunately, dating with an STD isn’t as scary as most of us think. Here’s what you need to know.

1. Understanding your STD status

STDs are sexually transmitted diseases. They are considered the most common contagious diseases in the world. People may get an STD when they have unprotected sex with someone who already has the disease. So if you do unprotected sex, and you suspect you have an STD, see your doctor to get tested.

STDs can be dangerous. When you have the disease, you may feel alone, but you are not. STDs are so common and they affect more than 65 million sexually active Americans. Most people with the disease may feel embarrassed and stressful as well. But be positive! You must see a doctor for help and consider telling your partner you have been exposed. STDs are a matter of life and death.

There are many different types of STDs. While some are incurable, others can be treated and controlled with medication. Some of the most common STDs include:

  • Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

These STDs are caused by bacteria. They can infect the mouth, throat, urethra, cervix, anus and uterus. Having oral, vaginal and anal sex with someone who already has the disease can make you infected, too. Chlamydia and Gonorrhea do not present symptoms. But when they do occur, you may have discharge, pain and burning sensation while urinating. Both conditions can be treated with oral antibiotics.

Read more: How Do I Know If I Have Gonorrhea?

Chlamydia and dating


  • Syphilis

Syphilis is also caused by bacteria. It is contagious and can be spread through oral and anal sex. Symptoms include painless sores or ulcers that occur on the genitals and the mouth. If untreated, the bacteria may spread and damage other organs. Antibiotics, like penicillin can help treat syphilis.

Syphilis and dating


  • Genital herpes

Genital herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). It can be responsible for painful sores or blisters on the genitals and in or around the mouth. Genital herpes is incurable. Once you’ve contracted the disease, you will have the virus for life. That’s why most people with genital herpes develop multiple outbreaks a year. Antiviral drugs, like Prosurx, acyclovir, can help reduce symptoms and prevent future outbreaks.

Read more: What Are Differences between Genital Herpes and Warts?

Genital herpes and dating

Genital herpes

  • Genital warts

Genital warts are caused by certain types of HPV (human papillomavirus). It is described as abnormal bumps on the genitals that look like a cauliflower. Genital warts are highly contagious. They can spread to other areas of the body and to other people through skin-to-skin contact. Most genital warts will go away without treatment, but they may return. To get rid of symptoms and eliminate the virus, you need to use medication. Vidarox is one of the best over-the-counter creams for genital warts. Keep using this for a few weeks helps remove the warts and prevent their recurrence. If the warts do not respond to this treatment, freezing or surgery may be necessary to clear them.

Read more: 7 Factors That Can Increase Outbreaks of Genital Warts

Dating with genital warts

Genital warts


The disease caused by HIV is called AIDS. It is incurable and can become fatal. Symptoms include fever, chills, sore throat, skin rashes and swollen lymph nodes. HIV is transmitted via vaginal and rectal fluids, semen, blood, and breast milk. If you suspect you have the disease, see your doctor for testing.

HIV rash

HIV rash

2. Telling a new partner that you have an STD

Most STDs cause no symptoms and they are highly contagious. So, it’s necessary to tell a partner that you have an STD. This helps prevent him/her from getting your disease and spreading to others. Here are some tips for handling the conversation.

  • Pick the right space for the conversation

Choose a quiet, private space where you will both feel safe and comfortable to mention about an STD.

  • Be direct

If you have been dating with your partner for a while and you both are thinking about getting into bed, it’s important to tell them about your STD first. Mention directly. And, let your partner know you are open and honest to talk and answer all their questions. This is a way to practice safe sex and keep your relationship open and honest.

  • Be honest

Being aware of having an STD and letting your partner know they can get the disease from you. In the meantime, explain a reduced chance of transmission if they agree to practice safe sex. Respect their thoughts and choice.

  • Explain your current treatment

Tell your partner about medication you are taking to treat your STD. Let them know you can keep the disease in check and prevent its spread.

  • Encourage your partner to ask questions
  • Answer all question in detail and honestly
  • Give your partner time to think and process the conversation

Read more: Why You Haven’t Told Your Partner about Your STD

Tell a partner that you have an STD

Tell a partner that you have an STD

3. Telling a current partner that you have an STD

If you are in a relationship and you are diagnosed with an STD, trust in your partner first. Many people have STDs and blame their partner for having cheated on them. This is completely wrong. You and your partner may get the disease in a previous relationship without being aware. Or, you and your partner may get it from shaving or sharing infected objects. Here are some tips for dealing with this situation:

  • Be honest
  • Let your partner know about your STD
  • Listen to your partner concerns and fears
  • Stop having sex
  • You both get tested
  • Get treated

To protect you and your partner from STDs, you both can:

  • Do not use drugs and alcohol
  • Get vaccinated
  • Use condoms every time you have sex
  • Avoid sharing clothes and towels
  • Wash before and after having sexual intercourse
  • Get tested regularly
  • Limit the number of sexual partners
  • Avoid having oral sex
  • Practice safe sex

Read more: Why You Should Let Your Doctor Know about Your Sexual Health

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